I am running out of marriage advice. Well, I do still have some, but my husband politely hinted that I needed to stop while I was ahead. Anyway, here is the last piece. It’s a short and sweet truth that covers everything I’ve already shared.
1st Peter 4:8
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly because love covers a multitude of sin.
Below is some of the more popular advice I previously shared on Facebook:
- Who hasn’t heard someone say, about their significant other, “They just don’t love me the way I need to be loved.” I seriously used to roll my eyes whenever I heard that. (If you know me, you can’t imagine that, right?) However, after 15 years of marriage, I now understand. People love differently. People also NEED love differently. Here’s the thing…. The only one who loves perfectly is God. Having said that, I know I don’t love perfectly and sometimes I miss the mark with my husband. So, I’ve learned to be patient with him and explain what I need from him, and then be patient some more. Honestly, my husband loves me and just because he misses the mark sometimes (like we all do), does not give me the right to look for what I need from somewhere else…….
- This piece of advice came from the movie, “Fireproof.” Contrary to popular advice – Do NOT follow your heart, lead your heart. That’s a revolutionary thought in our culture today, isn’t it? The thing is….. our hearts only want what’s best for us, and isn’t that the opposite of what loving another is about?
Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV)
9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?
- – WARNING – My Jesus Freak is showing in this one!
There is a song by Third Day that has been my favorite since I was 15. The name of it is “Love Song,” and it basically calls out the false belief that another person can love us enough or can complete us. We were created with a need for God’s love and no other human on this earth can meet this need.
If we expect another human being to complete us, we will be disappointed. Every.Single.Time.
I’ve heard it said that a man would climb a mountain
Just to be with the one he loves
How many times has he broken that promise
It has never been done.
I’ve never climbed the highest mountain
But I walked the hill of Calvary
Just to be with you, I’d do anything
There’s no price I would not pay
Just to be with you, I’d give everything
I would give my life away.
I’ve heard it said that a man would swim the ocean
Just to be with the one he loves
But all of those dreams are an empty emotion
It can never be done
I’ve never swam the deepest ocean
But I walked upon the raging sea
(Bridge) I know that you don’t understand
the fullness of My love
How I died upon the cross for your sins
And I know that you don’t realize
how much that I gave you
But I promise, I would do it all again.
Just to be with you, I’ve done everything
There’s no price I did not pay
Just to be with you, I gave everything
Yes, I gave my life away.
- I got this pearl of wisdom from Focus on the Family in the 90’s. The guest speaker was a marriage counselor who was discussing the biggest problem he heard with people who ended up in his office. What was the biggest problem you ask? He usually heard one say about the other, “I thought he/she would change.” He went on to say,
“Do NOT marry someone you cannot love and accept EXACTLY the way they are.”
This was the MOST important piece of marriage advice I’ve heard because if you marry someone you eventually can’t stand – Lord, help you.
- I got this one from Focus on the Family as a teen back in the 90’s.
Love is not just an emotion, it’s so much more than that. You will NOT wake up every morning of your life feeling in “love” with your spouse. Love is also a commitment and an action.
Love requires commitment to love (verb) your spouse regardless of your emotions.