Someone told me once that they could compete with another person, but they could never compete with a memory. Yeah, I thought it was a weird thing to say and I really didn’t understand.  I asked him to explain.  He said that memories aren’t fair. We rarely remember things the way they really were. I think there’s a lot of truth to that. During a difficult time in a person’s marriage, it would be so easy to remember how someone from the past wouldn’t have hurt you in the same way. Sometimes we remember what we want and forget about the hurt and pain that we suffered. It isn’t fair to compare your spouse with anyone, especially from your past. Everyone is different and everyone shows love differently. We have to take the bad with the good. It doesn’t make much sense to compare someone’s bad with another’s good.