So, my husband and I will be celebrating 15 years of marriage in the next few weeks. In honor of that, I will be randomly posting marriage advice that has helped us and shaped my attitude towards marriage. I’m not posting it because I think we have a perfect marriage or because we’re experts on the subject – it’s just the opposite. Marriage is hard, and to be perfectly honest I need all the help I can get. So, I’m posting it in case it might help someone else.
This one comes straight out of the bible.
Song of Songs 6:3 – I am my beloved and my beloved is mine.
This one sounds sweet in theory, but in reality it’s really hard. If you are each others, then it means you have given up total rights to yourself, your time, your money, and your decisions. You are putting the course of your life in another’s hands. I really don’t mind the receiving part. I love it when my husband is sharing with me. It’s the giving part that gets me. I really don’t want to share decisions with him, especially when we don’t agree. The thing is you have to share, even when you don’t want to, or your relationship will not work. The very nature of marriage (and love) requires the complete giving of both people involved. It’s so hard to give of yourself all the time, but that’s a part of loving another, isn’t it? Love isn’t easy; it takes a lot of work. Just being honest…..